Self esteem building tips: Every day is a great day for love

Special days like Fathers Day, Mothers Day and Valentines Day can bring up good or bad feelings depending on your personal relationships at the time.

Today is Fathers Day in Australia. Walking down  famous Chapel Street in Melbourne I was so touched by how many lovely young and old children I saw hugging their fathers and how many happy fathers I saw - just touched by the love of their family members. It really made me feel happy.

There were two main things that I took from this experience.

1) Days like this don't have to be about your dad if you don't have one, are not one, or are estranged from one. They are days to remind you that there is a lot of good in this world and you have people you love who also love you too - it's about focussing your attention here.

2) Whist we hear a lot of negativity, in general the human race is loving and kind. We generally have pretty good lives. There are always things to strive for, but we need to remember that there is kindness and love in our lives, despite what might be missing from time to time.

Sometimes depression strikes on days like this

In order to avoid feeling depressed on days like this and to ensure you can always maintain a high self esteem it's crucial to focus regularly on the love and fortune in your life. There is always some good to find in each day. If you prepare well for these events you can feel so much better. For instance, on Valentine's Day you could organise a nice outing with a close friend, on Fathers Day volunteer to help someone in need and on Mother's Day go to the movies and watch a comedy to bring on those feel good hormones.

Don't wait to feel better in order to do something to make yourself feel better. Take action when you need it most and find the best ways for you to improve your self esteem and sell worth- particularly on days that can trigger painful memories. Be prepared and be kind to yourself too.

To find out how you can build your self esteem visit: www.selfesteemonline.com.au

Why is seems the law of attraction isn't working

If you're feeling like you're hitting your head against the wall because your desires are not coming fast enough, it's time to look at what you're thinking!

People often assume they are being positive because they focus on what they want for periods of time during the day, but how much of their day is spent being positive versus being negative ?

Being negative dies not have to mean that you're a pessimistic person or that you're severely depressed. Negative self talk often happens so quickly that by the time you realize you're being negative, you've had a plethora if negative conversations in your head that invite more negative people, circumstances and events into your life.

Negative thinking is a habit - probably one of the most detrimental habits you are likely engage in. Negative thinking includes small examples, such as:
• opening an email from a person who is driving you crazy at work & thinking "she's so annoying"
• collecting the mail & thinking "I'm not going to open it now because I know it's a bill I can't pay"
• being cut off in traffic and thinking "what an idiot that driver is - he almost killed me"
• running late for work and thinking "I'm hopeless, I'm never on time"
• getting upset with your kids/friend/partner/family member/colleague (with reason) and thinking "I should never have spoken up - now they'll hate me"

.... And the list goes on....

You can see how quickly negative thinking can affect your life and therefore influence what you attract into your life.

The crazy thing about negative thinking is somewhere underneath the negative thinking is a belief that states "if I think hard enough about what's wrong - something will change". However, this goes against all the natural laws of the Universe - sick as the law of attraction. This habit and belief are, unfortunately, very well ingrained, so it takes effort to be VERY mindful of all the little negative thoughts that pass through your mind and the start to concert then into positive thinking.

A great way to start doing this is to take a leaf out of Loiuse Hay's book. She tells herself a very simple mantra "only good things lay before me". This mantra gives you a different focus - when practiced regularly. For instance, if you believe only good things lay before you and during the day someone cuts you off in traffic - instead of thinking "he almost killed me", you can think "maybe that happened to wake me up and remind me to pay attention". Similarly if you receive a bill, instead of thinking "I can't pay this", you'll start to think "I always find a way to pay things so I can handle any bill I receive". By the way... This is very true of bills. Often people stress a lot about bills coming in, however, once the shock subsides, they find a way to pay it.

Small negative self talk, leads to larger negative self talk. This negative language infects your life and prevents you from living a full and happy life.

Start with small changes. Be mindful today of the things you're saying to yourself and to others. Start to tell yourself a positive mantra and trust that the Universe will bring you what you desire - when its right for you.

For more inspiration visit happylife.net.au or helpformums.com