Curbing self doubt

When you're not confident, you can find yourself agreeing to things you never dreamt you would, or to avoid and pass up opportunities that you previously believed would be a dream come true.

Self doubt reflects an inner belief that we are not worthy or good enough at something. For instance, due to social comparison many mothers doubt their skills as a mother whenever they (or their children) are not acting as perfectly as they believe they should be. As a parent, you do your best to provide love, support, understanding, security and fun. However, the stressors of life often get in the way of making this possible. As a result, every time you have to do something that takes you away from your picture of how the perfect mother Should behave, you are likely to beat yourself up over it and further feed the self doubt.

In order to reduce self doubt we need to change our internal beliefs. This means engraining in our minds that we are good enough, we are trying our best and we deserve good things in our lives. These beliefs need some effort to engrain because you are often fighting against years of self doubt and strongly held negative self beliefs. Thus, a life coach who uses techniques such as NLP or hypnotherapy can really help to clear out these old beliefs and instill more positive - useful beliefs in their place.

Almost everyone experiences self doubt in one area of their life from time to time. It's the product of upbringing and ongoing reinforcement. Therefore, it's a learned behavioral response, which can be re-trained. Having a high self belief is the cornerstone of life success, so reducing self doubt is critical to overall happiness in life.