In the pursuit of goals, there are two steps. 1) deciding on the goal that you want to achieve and 2) being 100% committed to achieving your goal. The first one takes some time because you can find you change your mind regularly about what you really want. However, once you are convinced about your desires, the most important part is being committed to achieving it.
In order to be committed to achieving a goal you need a number of things:
- ) unwavering self believe that you can achieve your goal
-) a single minded attitude that is able to fight against any obstacles that come your way
-) a plan that you can easily follow and adjust when necessary
-) a clear view of the steps necessary to make it
The first two of these necessities can be the most challenging. For instance, if you are starting a new business, you are likely to be faced with a period of making little money or just breaking even. At this point, you need to believe wholeheartedly in your product, avoid destructions that may convince you to focus on other ways to make (quick-fix) money and ignore the negative messages you are likely to be sending yourself - that will dint your self confidence.
With a strong mental attitude you can achieve any goal you set your mind towards. In fact, most successful people will tell of times they were faced with setbacks, but with a strong mind, they persisted and achieved their dreams. Most people give up in the face of adversity or when things become challenging. This is the time, however, to be strong and trust that if you are 100% deviated to achieving your goals you can and will be successful in your endeavors.
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Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Changing your life - with balance
One of the things experts who have changed their lives say, is that with dedication and perseverance - you can change your life. However, the hardest part about changing your life, is balancing all the aspects of your life that you wish to excel in. For instance, how do you manage to have a successful career when you have a strong desire to spend time with your partner and children? Many successful professionals often find themselves working long hours in order to move up the corporate ladder, or to build successful businesses. Getting the balance right can be difficult.
Whilst their are practical considerations and roadblocks to balancing life priorities (especially when you're trying to make a change to reach a goal), there are two essential ingredients to achieving a good balance:
1) Unwavering self-belief
2) Feeling happy about the balance that you maintain
1) Unwavering self-belief
This is one of the biggest challenges human beings face. Many people find themselves self-sabotaging their successes because they don't really believe they're good enough to achieve or sustain their desired goals. When the goal is set, it appears to be achievable, however, when roadblocks start to appear, or the road becomes a little more difficult, self-doubt creeps in to dint confidence and motivation. This self-doubt usually leads to procrastination. People often assume procrastination is laziness, however, it is usually the result of underlying fear.
One of the easiest ways to build self- belief when you're moving towards a goal, is to continually refocus on where you want to go. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, you may find yourself procrastinating to avoid parts of the process (e.g. writing, editing, promoting) so as to have an excuse for it to potentially fail - as it's not yet complete. In the moments of procrastination, you must continuously remind yourself why your goal is important to you. You also need to be focused in the present moment, rather than focusing on the outcome of the goal. In the book writing example, you would focus on just the next step, rather than worrying about whether or not the book is going to be liked or well received. This mind shift takes some effort and persistence, because fear can be a very strong motivator for moving away from achieving a potentially scary goal.
2) Feeling happy about the life balance you maintain
Everyone has different desires and wishes for their professional life and personal life. Thus, you need to take time out to think about how much time you feel comfortable spending in all areas of your life and how this sits with those you care about most. Research shows that consistent, positive and quality time with loved ones is very effective at maintaining good quality relationships, so if you have minimal time with loved ones, at least make it count. This way, you can feel good about the time you're spending together and rationalise the amount of time you spend at work, at the gym, with friends and acquaintances, travelling and so on.
It's a good idea to give yourself space and time to reflect on the past year and to think about new strategies you could put into place to make your life more productive, effective and enjoyable. Trust in your self-belief and abilities to make the changes necessary to live a happy and successful life and seek help whenever you need it - to move forward with self confidence, trust and motivation.
Visit Happy Life today for personalised Life coaching and counselling support, or self-help online products, books and programs. See www.happylife.net.au
Whilst their are practical considerations and roadblocks to balancing life priorities (especially when you're trying to make a change to reach a goal), there are two essential ingredients to achieving a good balance:
1) Unwavering self-belief
2) Feeling happy about the balance that you maintain
1) Unwavering self-belief
This is one of the biggest challenges human beings face. Many people find themselves self-sabotaging their successes because they don't really believe they're good enough to achieve or sustain their desired goals. When the goal is set, it appears to be achievable, however, when roadblocks start to appear, or the road becomes a little more difficult, self-doubt creeps in to dint confidence and motivation. This self-doubt usually leads to procrastination. People often assume procrastination is laziness, however, it is usually the result of underlying fear.
One of the easiest ways to build self- belief when you're moving towards a goal, is to continually refocus on where you want to go. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, you may find yourself procrastinating to avoid parts of the process (e.g. writing, editing, promoting) so as to have an excuse for it to potentially fail - as it's not yet complete. In the moments of procrastination, you must continuously remind yourself why your goal is important to you. You also need to be focused in the present moment, rather than focusing on the outcome of the goal. In the book writing example, you would focus on just the next step, rather than worrying about whether or not the book is going to be liked or well received. This mind shift takes some effort and persistence, because fear can be a very strong motivator for moving away from achieving a potentially scary goal.
2) Feeling happy about the life balance you maintain
Everyone has different desires and wishes for their professional life and personal life. Thus, you need to take time out to think about how much time you feel comfortable spending in all areas of your life and how this sits with those you care about most. Research shows that consistent, positive and quality time with loved ones is very effective at maintaining good quality relationships, so if you have minimal time with loved ones, at least make it count. This way, you can feel good about the time you're spending together and rationalise the amount of time you spend at work, at the gym, with friends and acquaintances, travelling and so on.
It's a good idea to give yourself space and time to reflect on the past year and to think about new strategies you could put into place to make your life more productive, effective and enjoyable. Trust in your self-belief and abilities to make the changes necessary to live a happy and successful life and seek help whenever you need it - to move forward with self confidence, trust and motivation.
Visit Happy Life today for personalised Life coaching and counselling support, or self-help online products, books and programs. See www.happylife.net.au
Friday, December 7, 2012
How to cope with difficult relationships at work and in your family
There are many times in life when you're likely to find yourself in relationships that are unhealthy - and particularly damaging for your self-esteem. This happens particularly within the relationships in your family or at work. One of the major issues we are faced with is the stereotype we have created of the perfect job and family. We expect our family to be similar to the loving supportive families portrayed on tv (eg Family Ties, Modern Family, Different Strokes). We also expect our job environment to be fun, supportive and rewarding. With such high expectations, it's very easy to feel disappointed.
Often family's are coping with various emotions, life changes, cultural and religious expectations. At work you are placed in an environment with people who you may or may not get along with - or even like. However, you have up find a way to create an effective working relationship in order to enjoy your work and be productive.
There are various ways to cope within families and at work when you are faced with dealing with people who are letting you down, are criticizing you, or are trying to undermine you. When you have to stay in the environment there are 3 things you can do in a relationship that's letting you down in order to better cope and protect your self-esteem.
1) lower your expectations.
We often judge people against others in the same role (eg a friend's mum, or an old boss), however we have to allow people to be who they are and not expect any more. If they beat or meet our expectations, we can be pleasantly surprised, just don't expect them to be anything more than they are.
2) reduce contact
When you are around others with negative energy, do your best to minimize your physical contact with them. Choose your moments to communicate with these people and be calm and confident in your interactions - when you have to be in contact.
3) ask for very little
This is an important one and it's closely related to lowering your expectations. We ask for things because we expect a certain degree from others (eg expecting your boss to validate you, or expecting a family member to buy you a special gift for your birthday). If you ask for less and expect less, you increase your chances of being pleasantly surprised and you increase your coping resources when your hopes are not met.
In life, you are bound to come across people who rub you up the wrong way, so implementing the above strategies can
make life easier and much more enjoyable.
Often family's are coping with various emotions, life changes, cultural and religious expectations. At work you are placed in an environment with people who you may or may not get along with - or even like. However, you have up find a way to create an effective working relationship in order to enjoy your work and be productive.
There are various ways to cope within families and at work when you are faced with dealing with people who are letting you down, are criticizing you, or are trying to undermine you. When you have to stay in the environment there are 3 things you can do in a relationship that's letting you down in order to better cope and protect your self-esteem.
1) lower your expectations.
We often judge people against others in the same role (eg a friend's mum, or an old boss), however we have to allow people to be who they are and not expect any more. If they beat or meet our expectations, we can be pleasantly surprised, just don't expect them to be anything more than they are.
2) reduce contact
When you are around others with negative energy, do your best to minimize your physical contact with them. Choose your moments to communicate with these people and be calm and confident in your interactions - when you have to be in contact.
3) ask for very little
This is an important one and it's closely related to lowering your expectations. We ask for things because we expect a certain degree from others (eg expecting your boss to validate you, or expecting a family member to buy you a special gift for your birthday). If you ask for less and expect less, you increase your chances of being pleasantly surprised and you increase your coping resources when your hopes are not met.
In life, you are bound to come across people who rub you up the wrong way, so implementing the above strategies can
make life easier and much more enjoyable.
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Stress and your body
There is countless research regarding the effects of stress on your internal and external body. Stress is a very broad term, encompassing anxiety, worry, physiological & chemical body distress (eg being cold for too long, being over tired, being overworked) and so on.
There is a very strong connection between the mind and the body, yet many times it takes a physical manifestation to occur before you do something to minimize the stress. For instance, you'll wait until you experience significant stomach pain, headaches or back ache, before deciding to become actively involved in meditation, Pilates, or mindfulness practice.
The ideal, however, is to consistently train your mind to become more resilient to the inevitable stress around you. For instance, if you're struggling with financial worry, every time you receive a new bill, you are likely to be filled with panic, dread and physical illness as a result of prolonged stress. In order to minimize stress you need a plan to manage your current situation, stick to your plan and move forward. An example of this plan would be to stagger your pay cheque according to your urgent bills & lifestyle & to put away specific amounts of money to pay off debt & have some fun. As long as the bare minimum is being paid, you can reduce stress and then focus on new ways to increase your income.
Worry can become a habit, so much so that you can learn to create worries when one does not appear to exist. Thus, it's important to also start paying attention to your worry cue's. This will help you to direct your relaxation efforts to the right time and place. Its crucial to learn when you are most likely to be stressed and use these times to implement stress reduction strategies, such as controlled breathing, acceptance of the situation and belief in your ability to cope with anything life throws at you.
Find more tips on reducing anxiety in the free article area of the Happy Life website: www.happylife.net.au
There is a very strong connection between the mind and the body, yet many times it takes a physical manifestation to occur before you do something to minimize the stress. For instance, you'll wait until you experience significant stomach pain, headaches or back ache, before deciding to become actively involved in meditation, Pilates, or mindfulness practice.
The ideal, however, is to consistently train your mind to become more resilient to the inevitable stress around you. For instance, if you're struggling with financial worry, every time you receive a new bill, you are likely to be filled with panic, dread and physical illness as a result of prolonged stress. In order to minimize stress you need a plan to manage your current situation, stick to your plan and move forward. An example of this plan would be to stagger your pay cheque according to your urgent bills & lifestyle & to put away specific amounts of money to pay off debt & have some fun. As long as the bare minimum is being paid, you can reduce stress and then focus on new ways to increase your income.
Worry can become a habit, so much so that you can learn to create worries when one does not appear to exist. Thus, it's important to also start paying attention to your worry cue's. This will help you to direct your relaxation efforts to the right time and place. Its crucial to learn when you are most likely to be stressed and use these times to implement stress reduction strategies, such as controlled breathing, acceptance of the situation and belief in your ability to cope with anything life throws at you.
Find more tips on reducing anxiety in the free article area of the Happy Life website: www.happylife.net.au
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Do you know what you want in life?
As human beings we spend a lot of time in social comparison. It's very common to find ourselves wondering why life seems so easy for some & yet so hard for others. It can sometimes feel unfair.
One of the problems with modern life is that we are 'fed' information regarding what should make us happy. This happens over and over again through advertising. As a result, there is always a carrot at the end of the stick pushing you harder and harder to obtain the next goal or desire.
Think about the last new car you purchased. Initially, you were probably very excited about the car. You may have driven it around to your friends and family and relished in the validation and praise for your new 'shiny' purchase. However, before too long, the is likely to have become simply a means to an end (driving you from A to B), so the validation you felt from this purchase soon wears off. Why... Because around the corner is an advertisement for an even better/bigger/more technologically advanced car, making your car look less impressive. So, you may start to feel down about your car and start longing for the better one.
This cycle is a by product of our society. We have to accept this. However, we are much more likely to enjoy life (including our purchases) if we take time to think about what is important to us and what would truly make us happy. For instance, with regard to the new car, it's important to regularly remind yourself about what you love about it. If it's simply a great vehicle to take you places, tell yourself how grateful you are to own a reliable car. If you were looking for comfort and style, remind yourself how great your car is and remember to stop yourself when you compare it to newer vehicles.
When it comes to your life overall, it's really important to think about what makes you happy. A first clue is to look at the areas you tend to feel depressed about. Lack of money and relationship problems are common areas that often lead to depressed thinking. If you are lacking in finances, is there a chance that you are self sabotaging yourself as a result of comparing yourself to others who have much more money than you? Rather than engaging in social comparison, try thinking about your lifestyle overall when you think about money.
When you know how many hours you want to work, the industry in which you would like to work in and the hours you would like to invest in making money, you can make an informed decision about how much money you would like to have and whether or not this is reasonable. For instance, if you're feeling depressed about not being a millionaire, but you would rather spend time with your family and friends - instead of working all hours of the night - accept this and be grateful for your lifestyle. Then, start to think 'outside the box'. Ask yourself "Where could i invest some extra time and money to increase my passive income, so it does not impinge on my personal life?".
In my business I speak to many mums - Working full-time, part-time, or in the home. Many of these mums feel inadequate from time to time. The full time mums often feel guilty for having to work, the part-time mums often feel exhausted trying to lead two very separate lives, the stay at home mums often feel they could be contributing more and are worried they have lost touch of their previous professional lives. However, those that are happy are those that are clear about what they are doing - AND WHY! The stay at home mums are grateful for the opportunity to be actively involved in their child's upbringing, the part-time mums are grateful for time with the kids, keeping a foot in the professional door and contributing to the household finances, & the full-time working mums are grateful for their career, the money coming in to provide for their families and the quality time they have with their children. In each case, the mum is happy with her choice and knows clearly why she chose it. She also has realistic expectations of what she can abs can't achieve in her chosen role.
Therefore, a strong key for happiness is having clarity over how you want to live your life, being committed to this goal and having manageable and reasonable expectations of how you can achieve your goal also.
One of the problems with modern life is that we are 'fed' information regarding what should make us happy. This happens over and over again through advertising. As a result, there is always a carrot at the end of the stick pushing you harder and harder to obtain the next goal or desire.
Think about the last new car you purchased. Initially, you were probably very excited about the car. You may have driven it around to your friends and family and relished in the validation and praise for your new 'shiny' purchase. However, before too long, the is likely to have become simply a means to an end (driving you from A to B), so the validation you felt from this purchase soon wears off. Why... Because around the corner is an advertisement for an even better/bigger/more technologically advanced car, making your car look less impressive. So, you may start to feel down about your car and start longing for the better one.
This cycle is a by product of our society. We have to accept this. However, we are much more likely to enjoy life (including our purchases) if we take time to think about what is important to us and what would truly make us happy. For instance, with regard to the new car, it's important to regularly remind yourself about what you love about it. If it's simply a great vehicle to take you places, tell yourself how grateful you are to own a reliable car. If you were looking for comfort and style, remind yourself how great your car is and remember to stop yourself when you compare it to newer vehicles.
When it comes to your life overall, it's really important to think about what makes you happy. A first clue is to look at the areas you tend to feel depressed about. Lack of money and relationship problems are common areas that often lead to depressed thinking. If you are lacking in finances, is there a chance that you are self sabotaging yourself as a result of comparing yourself to others who have much more money than you? Rather than engaging in social comparison, try thinking about your lifestyle overall when you think about money.
When you know how many hours you want to work, the industry in which you would like to work in and the hours you would like to invest in making money, you can make an informed decision about how much money you would like to have and whether or not this is reasonable. For instance, if you're feeling depressed about not being a millionaire, but you would rather spend time with your family and friends - instead of working all hours of the night - accept this and be grateful for your lifestyle. Then, start to think 'outside the box'. Ask yourself "Where could i invest some extra time and money to increase my passive income, so it does not impinge on my personal life?".
In my business I speak to many mums - Working full-time, part-time, or in the home. Many of these mums feel inadequate from time to time. The full time mums often feel guilty for having to work, the part-time mums often feel exhausted trying to lead two very separate lives, the stay at home mums often feel they could be contributing more and are worried they have lost touch of their previous professional lives. However, those that are happy are those that are clear about what they are doing - AND WHY! The stay at home mums are grateful for the opportunity to be actively involved in their child's upbringing, the part-time mums are grateful for time with the kids, keeping a foot in the professional door and contributing to the household finances, & the full-time working mums are grateful for their career, the money coming in to provide for their families and the quality time they have with their children. In each case, the mum is happy with her choice and knows clearly why she chose it. She also has realistic expectations of what she can abs can't achieve in her chosen role.
Therefore, a strong key for happiness is having clarity over how you want to live your life, being committed to this goal and having manageable and reasonable expectations of how you can achieve your goal also.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Stop worrying about what other people think
As an energy sensitive person, I find it very hard not to get drawn in to other people's emotions. My energy sensitivity is very useful in my professional career as a therapist, however, in my personal life it can get me into trouble. What tends to happen is that I become preoccupied with how others are feeling and then without realising it, begin to respond to their emotions. An example of this is when I am around acquaintances that are anxious. I pick up on anxious energy very quickly. I am aware of this at the time, however, I it has taken me a while to understand why I felt so drained after associating with these people.
The law of attraction suggests we pick up on others energies and if we are not mindful, we will internalise these outward feelings as our own. Delving into this further, I realised that I become so preoccupied with making others feel happy, that I forget to be myself. As a result, other people most likely pick up on the change in my behaviour, become more anxious - and the cycle continues. So what is the answer to this issue? The answer lies in being yourself. Whilst this sounds like a simple thing to do, it's incredible how many of us lose ourselves in the process of trying to please others. This does not mean that we should not try to make others happy. It is a very nice part of humanity to gain joy from giving joy to others. However, when you start to second guess how others are feeling, or take their feelings on as though they are your own, it becomes a problem.
A large part of this also comes from fear of getting into trouble - or upsetting others. Unfortunately a by-product of being a nice person, can result in becoming a people-pleaser. This sounds nice on one level, but it can cause a great deal of stress when it comes at the sacrifice of your needs and desires. Further, when you continuously put your needs last - in order to people others - resentment and guilt are often not far behind.
In order to change automatic reactions and habits it's important to consciously recognise the relationships that tend to bring on this behaviour and then to approach every new interaction with the resolve to be true to yourself and not simply agree with others, so as not to offend them. For instance, if you are a parent and you have a belief about how children should be put to sleep, which is in complete opposition to a friend's, it would be much more healthy for you to acknowledge your friend's belief and still raise your personal views. What most people do is say nothing (or agree) with oposing beliefs and then end up feeling angry and offended, rather than addressing the issue first hand. In doing so, the peace may have been kept - but at what cost to your soul?
Most of us have an innate desire to be liked, so we often go out of our way to make others happy and to keep the peace. However, this does not have to come at the cost of yourself - in other words - you don't have to lose yourself in relationships in order to be happy. By relaxing with who you are and accepting that your true friends will like you for who you really are - not the mirror image on themselves - you will feel much more comfortable and less exhausted as a result of being the real you, rather than the people-pleasing you.
Make an effort to get to know who you are - your values, beliefs and desires and invest time in feeling confident being yourself in all interactions. Yes, there is a time for decorum, however, you can still maintain your core self and in the process increase your self-esteem, regardless of the people, places or circumstances you find yourself in.
The law of attraction suggests we pick up on others energies and if we are not mindful, we will internalise these outward feelings as our own. Delving into this further, I realised that I become so preoccupied with making others feel happy, that I forget to be myself. As a result, other people most likely pick up on the change in my behaviour, become more anxious - and the cycle continues. So what is the answer to this issue? The answer lies in being yourself. Whilst this sounds like a simple thing to do, it's incredible how many of us lose ourselves in the process of trying to please others. This does not mean that we should not try to make others happy. It is a very nice part of humanity to gain joy from giving joy to others. However, when you start to second guess how others are feeling, or take their feelings on as though they are your own, it becomes a problem.
A large part of this also comes from fear of getting into trouble - or upsetting others. Unfortunately a by-product of being a nice person, can result in becoming a people-pleaser. This sounds nice on one level, but it can cause a great deal of stress when it comes at the sacrifice of your needs and desires. Further, when you continuously put your needs last - in order to people others - resentment and guilt are often not far behind.
In order to change automatic reactions and habits it's important to consciously recognise the relationships that tend to bring on this behaviour and then to approach every new interaction with the resolve to be true to yourself and not simply agree with others, so as not to offend them. For instance, if you are a parent and you have a belief about how children should be put to sleep, which is in complete opposition to a friend's, it would be much more healthy for you to acknowledge your friend's belief and still raise your personal views. What most people do is say nothing (or agree) with oposing beliefs and then end up feeling angry and offended, rather than addressing the issue first hand. In doing so, the peace may have been kept - but at what cost to your soul?
Most of us have an innate desire to be liked, so we often go out of our way to make others happy and to keep the peace. However, this does not have to come at the cost of yourself - in other words - you don't have to lose yourself in relationships in order to be happy. By relaxing with who you are and accepting that your true friends will like you for who you really are - not the mirror image on themselves - you will feel much more comfortable and less exhausted as a result of being the real you, rather than the people-pleasing you.
Make an effort to get to know who you are - your values, beliefs and desires and invest time in feeling confident being yourself in all interactions. Yes, there is a time for decorum, however, you can still maintain your core self and in the process increase your self-esteem, regardless of the people, places or circumstances you find yourself in.
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Thursday, November 15, 2012
Curbing self doubt
When you're not confident, you can find yourself agreeing to things you never dreamt you would, or to avoid and pass up opportunities that you previously believed would be a dream come true.
Self doubt reflects an inner belief that we are not worthy or good enough at something. For instance, due to social comparison many mothers doubt their skills as a mother whenever they (or their children) are not acting as perfectly as they believe they should be. As a parent, you do your best to provide love, support, understanding, security and fun. However, the stressors of life often get in the way of making this possible. As a result, every time you have to do something that takes you away from your picture of how the perfect mother Should behave, you are likely to beat yourself up over it and further feed the self doubt.
In order to reduce self doubt we need to change our internal beliefs. This means engraining in our minds that we are good enough, we are trying our best and we deserve good things in our lives. These beliefs need some effort to engrain because you are often fighting against years of self doubt and strongly held negative self beliefs. Thus, a life coach who uses techniques such as NLP or hypnotherapy can really help to clear out these old beliefs and instill more positive - useful beliefs in their place.
Almost everyone experiences self doubt in one area of their life from time to time. It's the product of upbringing and ongoing reinforcement. Therefore, it's a learned behavioral response, which can be re-trained. Having a high self belief is the cornerstone of life success, so reducing self doubt is critical to overall happiness in life.
Self doubt reflects an inner belief that we are not worthy or good enough at something. For instance, due to social comparison many mothers doubt their skills as a mother whenever they (or their children) are not acting as perfectly as they believe they should be. As a parent, you do your best to provide love, support, understanding, security and fun. However, the stressors of life often get in the way of making this possible. As a result, every time you have to do something that takes you away from your picture of how the perfect mother Should behave, you are likely to beat yourself up over it and further feed the self doubt.
In order to reduce self doubt we need to change our internal beliefs. This means engraining in our minds that we are good enough, we are trying our best and we deserve good things in our lives. These beliefs need some effort to engrain because you are often fighting against years of self doubt and strongly held negative self beliefs. Thus, a life coach who uses techniques such as NLP or hypnotherapy can really help to clear out these old beliefs and instill more positive - useful beliefs in their place.
Almost everyone experiences self doubt in one area of their life from time to time. It's the product of upbringing and ongoing reinforcement. Therefore, it's a learned behavioral response, which can be re-trained. Having a high self belief is the cornerstone of life success, so reducing self doubt is critical to overall happiness in life.
Thursday, October 25, 2012
Forgiving
It takes a lot of soul searching to forgive those that have hurt you, however holding on to anger only brings you more pain. When you decide to forgive you also need to be mindful that you may think you've moved on, but the hurt lags behind. Its easy to think you're forgiving, but when you dig deep or things remind you of what has upset you, the anger and pain will show you whether you have really forgiven or not.
When you're angry so many things are said that you wish you could take back or get through to the person you are mad at. However sometimes your feelings and wishes fall on deaf ears and this is the time to let go - trusting you have done all you can to rectify the situation.
True forgiveness of other & particularly yourself is what is required to move on. Where the self forgiveness comes in, is where you are criticizing yourself for putting yourself in a certain situation, not standing up for yourself earlier and so on. We need to understand we are human. When you love someone it's amazing how much you will excuse and put up with. These are often things you would strongly advise your close friends to walk away from.
The mistakes we make in life are in the past - they are gone. So too are the mistakes others have made. You can choose to hold on to anger and pain and live in the past, or you can choose to move forward - forgive & let go.
So if you're holding on to anything negative in the past or present tell yourself today "I'm finally letting go and moving forward."
Find more inspiration & personalized support at Happy Life: www.happylife.net.au
When you're angry so many things are said that you wish you could take back or get through to the person you are mad at. However sometimes your feelings and wishes fall on deaf ears and this is the time to let go - trusting you have done all you can to rectify the situation.
True forgiveness of other & particularly yourself is what is required to move on. Where the self forgiveness comes in, is where you are criticizing yourself for putting yourself in a certain situation, not standing up for yourself earlier and so on. We need to understand we are human. When you love someone it's amazing how much you will excuse and put up with. These are often things you would strongly advise your close friends to walk away from.
The mistakes we make in life are in the past - they are gone. So too are the mistakes others have made. You can choose to hold on to anger and pain and live in the past, or you can choose to move forward - forgive & let go.
So if you're holding on to anything negative in the past or present tell yourself today "I'm finally letting go and moving forward."
Find more inspiration & personalized support at Happy Life: www.happylife.net.au
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Standing up & letting go
Sometimes you have to let things go to truly appreciate how much you love them. Similarly, sometimes you have to let go of negative relationships to assist others to appreciate you.
It's not always easy to let go of people you have been close to for some time, but every once in a while your instincts tell you certain relationships are not good for your self-esteem & it's time to explain to the person how you feel, then take some time apart. If the person values your relationship he/she will deeply think about how you feel and re-evaluate his/her behaviour accordingly.
Standing up for yourself does not guarantee the person will come around to your thinking, but it will protect you from getting hurt any further and will increase your self esteem when you acknowledge the value in yourself as a person.
It can be scary to let go of negative relationships, but it's worth it when they are damaging your self worth.
It's not always easy to let go of people you have been close to for some time, but every once in a while your instincts tell you certain relationships are not good for your self-esteem & it's time to explain to the person how you feel, then take some time apart. If the person values your relationship he/she will deeply think about how you feel and re-evaluate his/her behaviour accordingly.
Standing up for yourself does not guarantee the person will come around to your thinking, but it will protect you from getting hurt any further and will increase your self esteem when you acknowledge the value in yourself as a person.
It can be scary to let go of negative relationships, but it's worth it when they are damaging your self worth.
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Picking yourself up when you're down
It's easy to feel motivated and inspired when things are going well. During these times you feel inspired to achieve and follow through on all the steps you've meticulously devised to reach your goals. But what happens when you hit a fork in the road? For example:
1) you receive an unexpected bill
2) you experience rejection
3) you notice you've gained weight
4) you fight with a loved one
These negative (unexpected) experiences can really bring you down and throw you off course. Further, if you're not careful, they can quickly cause you to spiral into thoughts of helplessness and hopelessness which often lead to depression.
In order to cope with the struggles life can throw at you - in the moment - it helps to tackle your moods from the physical & then from the emotional/psychological perspectives.
Physical
In the midst of a negative mood, you first need to change your physical body to try to shake off the feeling of hopelessness. Unfortunately this is when many people turn to alcohol and/or medication for a quick-fix solution (later suffering from the side effects). Better options include eating foods that release serotonin - like tuna, having a coffee or going for a walk/run.
Emotional/psychological
After you've shaken off the physical component it's important to work through the emotional and psychological components. This often requires speaking to someone else who can give you a balanced perspective. This is why I suggest my clients text or email me when they are in the midst of a stressful situation or mood - that way they can have a quick response from me to help them snap out of their negative state & feel better about moving forward - right in the moment, rather than having to wait until their next session to discuss the issue.
The last step is taking control. Have a look at the situation in your (now) more rational mindset and work out what steps you can take to get through it.
Life will often throw things at you when you least expect it. However, if you cope with the strategies noted above, you will increase your resilience and optimism and live a much happier and fulfilling life.
1) you receive an unexpected bill
2) you experience rejection
3) you notice you've gained weight
4) you fight with a loved one
These negative (unexpected) experiences can really bring you down and throw you off course. Further, if you're not careful, they can quickly cause you to spiral into thoughts of helplessness and hopelessness which often lead to depression.
In order to cope with the struggles life can throw at you - in the moment - it helps to tackle your moods from the physical & then from the emotional/psychological perspectives.
Physical
In the midst of a negative mood, you first need to change your physical body to try to shake off the feeling of hopelessness. Unfortunately this is when many people turn to alcohol and/or medication for a quick-fix solution (later suffering from the side effects). Better options include eating foods that release serotonin - like tuna, having a coffee or going for a walk/run.
Emotional/psychological
After you've shaken off the physical component it's important to work through the emotional and psychological components. This often requires speaking to someone else who can give you a balanced perspective. This is why I suggest my clients text or email me when they are in the midst of a stressful situation or mood - that way they can have a quick response from me to help them snap out of their negative state & feel better about moving forward - right in the moment, rather than having to wait until their next session to discuss the issue.
The last step is taking control. Have a look at the situation in your (now) more rational mindset and work out what steps you can take to get through it.
Life will often throw things at you when you least expect it. However, if you cope with the strategies noted above, you will increase your resilience and optimism and live a much happier and fulfilling life.
Picking yourself up when you're down
It's easy to feel motivated and inspired when things are going well. During these times you feel inspired to achieve and follow through on all the steps you've meticulously devised to reach your goals. But what happens when you hit a fork in the road? For example:
1) you receive an unexpected bill
2) you experience rejection
3) you notice you've gained weight
4) you fight with a loved one
These negative (unexpected) experiences can really bring you down and throw you off course. Further, if you're not careful, they can quickly cause you to spiral into thoughts of helplessness and hopelessness which often lead to depression.
In order to cope with the struggles life can throw at you - in the moment - it helps to tackle your moods from the physical & then from the emotional/psychological perspectives.
Physical
In the midst of a negative mood, you first need to change your physical body to try to shake off the feeling of hopelessness. Unfortunately this is when many people turn to alcohol and/or medication for a quick-fix solution (later suffering from the side effects). Better options include eating foods that release serotonin - like tuna, having a coffee or going for a walk/run.
Emotional/psychological
After you've shaken off the physical component it's important to work through the emotional and psychological components. This often requires speaking to someone else who can give you a balanced perspective. This is why I suggest my clients text or email me when they are in the midst of a stressful situation or mood - that way they can have a quick response from me to help them snap out of their negative state & feel better about moving forward - right in the moment, rather than having to wait until their next session to discuss the issue.
The last step is taking control. Have a look at the situation in your (now) more rational mindset and work out what steps you can take to get through it.
Life will often throw things at you when you least expect it. However, if you cope with the strategies noted above, you will increase your resilience and optimism and live a much happier and fulfilling life.
1) you receive an unexpected bill
2) you experience rejection
3) you notice you've gained weight
4) you fight with a loved one
These negative (unexpected) experiences can really bring you down and throw you off course. Further, if you're not careful, they can quickly cause you to spiral into thoughts of helplessness and hopelessness which often lead to depression.
In order to cope with the struggles life can throw at you - in the moment - it helps to tackle your moods from the physical & then from the emotional/psychological perspectives.
Physical
In the midst of a negative mood, you first need to change your physical body to try to shake off the feeling of hopelessness. Unfortunately this is when many people turn to alcohol and/or medication for a quick-fix solution (later suffering from the side effects). Better options include eating foods that release serotonin - like tuna, having a coffee or going for a walk/run.
Emotional/psychological
After you've shaken off the physical component it's important to work through the emotional and psychological components. This often requires speaking to someone else who can give you a balanced perspective. This is why I suggest my clients text or email me when they are in the midst of a stressful situation or mood - that way they can have a quick response from me to help them snap out of their negative state & feel better about moving forward - right in the moment, rather than having to wait until their next session to discuss the issue.
The last step is taking control. Have a look at the situation in your (now) more rational mindset and work out what steps you can take to get through it.
Life will often throw things at you when you least expect it. However, if you cope with the strategies noted above, you will increase your resilience and optimism and live a much happier and fulfilling life.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Curbing self sabotage
Often when you get close to achieving your desires your brain finds a way to make you scared. It will come up with a million "what ifs" & if you're not ready to fight these off, you'll self sabotage your success.
Careers are a perfect example of this. You can spend years being a frustrated artist waiting for your big break. Then, as soon as the break arrives you start telling yourself it's clashing with your other commitments, or you convince yourself you're not good enough. If you don't fight off, or ignore these fears you will believe them & in turn convince yourself to avoid the big break. Leaving you once again feeling 'down' - waiting for the next big break to arrive.
The fear of the unknown can be extremely intense. It's much safer to stay where you are because you can tell yourself you haven't yet 'made it' because the circumstances haven't been right. The scary part is thinking what if I take that break and fall flat on my face - then what do I do???
However, if you can believe that each step is part of the process and even reward yourself for taking each break - regardless of the outcome, you will enjoy the journey and get closer and closer to where you want to be.
Find more inspiration and support from the Happy Life team visit: www.happylife.net.au
Careers are a perfect example of this. You can spend years being a frustrated artist waiting for your big break. Then, as soon as the break arrives you start telling yourself it's clashing with your other commitments, or you convince yourself you're not good enough. If you don't fight off, or ignore these fears you will believe them & in turn convince yourself to avoid the big break. Leaving you once again feeling 'down' - waiting for the next big break to arrive.
The fear of the unknown can be extremely intense. It's much safer to stay where you are because you can tell yourself you haven't yet 'made it' because the circumstances haven't been right. The scary part is thinking what if I take that break and fall flat on my face - then what do I do???
However, if you can believe that each step is part of the process and even reward yourself for taking each break - regardless of the outcome, you will enjoy the journey and get closer and closer to where you want to be.
Find more inspiration and support from the Happy Life team visit: www.happylife.net.au
Thursday, October 4, 2012
Getting off the treadmill of live - in relationships
One of the things that MANY people forget to do in their intimate and social relationships is to have fun. Often we associate certain friends with talking about our problem, our partners with talking about bills & chores and our family with talking about dramas. As a result, we can easily lose touch of the importance of connections with people we really care about. Also, these people can begin to associate you with being stressed and the negative things you are discussing, rather than having a balanced perspective of who you are as a person.
Of course, in all relationships we need time to be able to discuss things that are going on in our lives - even if it's not much fun at the time. However, it's really important to ensure there is a balance. This means making sure the positive experiences you have with the people you care about outweight the negative experiences. This is particularly true of couples. If you're in a relationship where you are living with your partner, think about your interactions when you meet at home after work. Do you take time to be affectionate and warm towards each other, or does one person tend to get straight into discussions about the stressors of the day, or worries about personal issues?
These little interactions throughout a day are the foundations of good communication and without them often hidden meanings are drawn about behaviour. For instance, if you come home from work and do not acknowledge your partner and simply go straight to talk to your children, your partner may begin to think you are not as excited to see him/her as you are to see the kids. However, a 2 second kiss or hug and THEN embracing the kids will give a totally different message.
It's interesting how we often simply assume those close to us know how we feel about them. We tend to neglect making a special effort (on a day to day basis) with friends and loved ones who we think should just know how we feel and thus put more effort into relationships that we think need more work. However, this behaviour does not encourage those who have been good to us and those who we often care most deeply for.
So take time to be mindful of your behaviour and bring back into your life the little things that bring you close to those you love most.
Of course, in all relationships we need time to be able to discuss things that are going on in our lives - even if it's not much fun at the time. However, it's really important to ensure there is a balance. This means making sure the positive experiences you have with the people you care about outweight the negative experiences. This is particularly true of couples. If you're in a relationship where you are living with your partner, think about your interactions when you meet at home after work. Do you take time to be affectionate and warm towards each other, or does one person tend to get straight into discussions about the stressors of the day, or worries about personal issues?
These little interactions throughout a day are the foundations of good communication and without them often hidden meanings are drawn about behaviour. For instance, if you come home from work and do not acknowledge your partner and simply go straight to talk to your children, your partner may begin to think you are not as excited to see him/her as you are to see the kids. However, a 2 second kiss or hug and THEN embracing the kids will give a totally different message.
It's interesting how we often simply assume those close to us know how we feel about them. We tend to neglect making a special effort (on a day to day basis) with friends and loved ones who we think should just know how we feel and thus put more effort into relationships that we think need more work. However, this behaviour does not encourage those who have been good to us and those who we often care most deeply for.
So take time to be mindful of your behaviour and bring back into your life the little things that bring you close to those you love most.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Half the battle is believing in yourself
It's easy to say you want something, but it's a whole other matter to truly believe in your heart that you can achieve it and you deserve to achieve it. Money is a really good example of this.
Money often has a lot of emotional attachments for people and is often tied to certain beliefs. Whilst you might know instinctively that money is a necessity in the modern world, it's a different matter to truly believe you deserve a lot of money and to trust that you are capable of managing it well and helping it to grow. This is why you often find no matter how much money you earn, you're still struggling the same as you were you when you earned less money (now with more expensive possessions).
The key to financial success is ensuring your beliefs are in line with your desires for wealth. So you need to dig deeply and really get to know how you feel about money. Then you can work on changing your beliefs to attract and maintain the money.
The same applies to all areas of life. For instance, if you do not believe at your core that you are worthy of good relationships in your life, or you don't believe you are good enough, your subconscious will find a way to push potentially good relationships away . Furthermore, you will attract negative relationships with others who are likely to share your low level of self-esteem and worthiness.
Spend time getting to know how you think about things and whether or not your beliefs are holding you back from having the successful and happy life you deserve.
Find more inspiration at: www.happylife.net
Money often has a lot of emotional attachments for people and is often tied to certain beliefs. Whilst you might know instinctively that money is a necessity in the modern world, it's a different matter to truly believe you deserve a lot of money and to trust that you are capable of managing it well and helping it to grow. This is why you often find no matter how much money you earn, you're still struggling the same as you were you when you earned less money (now with more expensive possessions).
The key to financial success is ensuring your beliefs are in line with your desires for wealth. So you need to dig deeply and really get to know how you feel about money. Then you can work on changing your beliefs to attract and maintain the money.
The same applies to all areas of life. For instance, if you do not believe at your core that you are worthy of good relationships in your life, or you don't believe you are good enough, your subconscious will find a way to push potentially good relationships away . Furthermore, you will attract negative relationships with others who are likely to share your low level of self-esteem and worthiness.
Spend time getting to know how you think about things and whether or not your beliefs are holding you back from having the successful and happy life you deserve.
Find more inspiration at: www.happylife.net
Thursday, September 20, 2012
The Law of attraction in process
How do you balance wanting something, with being happy where you are? The law of attraction states in order to attract what you want, you need to be a vibrational match to what you want. In other words, you need to feel (now) the way you would if you already had what you wanted.
The significant challenge with this, is that you tend to want certain things because you're tired of things in the present - and you want a change in order to feel better. There in lies the problem - focussing on what you dislike about the present results in you being stuck in the present. Further, the negativity you feel is not a vibrational match to what you want and hence you do not attract your desires.
So how do you stay in that positive mindset when you can't see results? This is where gratitude comes in. The purpose of being grateful is to shift your mind to think "you know what, even though I don't have the things I want (eg partner, house, car, job) my life is pretty good".
If you can do this on a regular basis, you will regularly cause your energy and mood to be a match to your desires and hence the law of attraction can do its work.
A classic example of this is when women who have been trying to fall pregnant using IVF decide to stop trying and relax about it - then 'accidentally' fall pregnant straight away. Their energy changed from one of stress and frustration, to one of peace. Another example is when you stop looking for a partner and by chance suddenly meet the person of your dreams.
Your energy and mindset are very powerful forces. Use these powers to create and maintain the life you want and truly deserve.
The significant challenge with this, is that you tend to want certain things because you're tired of things in the present - and you want a change in order to feel better. There in lies the problem - focussing on what you dislike about the present results in you being stuck in the present. Further, the negativity you feel is not a vibrational match to what you want and hence you do not attract your desires.
So how do you stay in that positive mindset when you can't see results? This is where gratitude comes in. The purpose of being grateful is to shift your mind to think "you know what, even though I don't have the things I want (eg partner, house, car, job) my life is pretty good".
If you can do this on a regular basis, you will regularly cause your energy and mood to be a match to your desires and hence the law of attraction can do its work.
A classic example of this is when women who have been trying to fall pregnant using IVF decide to stop trying and relax about it - then 'accidentally' fall pregnant straight away. Their energy changed from one of stress and frustration, to one of peace. Another example is when you stop looking for a partner and by chance suddenly meet the person of your dreams.
Your energy and mindset are very powerful forces. Use these powers to create and maintain the life you want and truly deserve.
Monday, September 17, 2012
Hormone trap
The thing about being a woman is that two weeks a month can be a challenge fighting the hormones that rage before and during your period. The worst of these is agitation and depression.
It's really important to be mindful of your cycle and your moods around your cycle because they can cause you to think you're feeling down (thus sabotaging your goals) when in fact your moods are physical, not emotional. When you don't recognize the nature of your moods, you can easily try to alter them with positive thinking, which often makes you more frustrated. In addition, women tend to focus on how terrible they feel, which in turn leads to more negative moods.
When depression an agitation are physical, it's best to treat them physically and then remind yourself that it will pass, rather than getting upset about feeling this way. Focussing on how frustrated you are because you feel this way will only make the experience worse.
This is where Pilates and yoga can really help. They loosen everything up, thus having both a physical and emotional positive impact on your body and mind. Eating iron rich foods can also help if you have a heavy period. The important thing is to take action and attack the negative moods before they impact your life.
Be proactive during these two weeks a month and don't allow a physical response to set you back every month.
It's really important to be mindful of your cycle and your moods around your cycle because they can cause you to think you're feeling down (thus sabotaging your goals) when in fact your moods are physical, not emotional. When you don't recognize the nature of your moods, you can easily try to alter them with positive thinking, which often makes you more frustrated. In addition, women tend to focus on how terrible they feel, which in turn leads to more negative moods.
When depression an agitation are physical, it's best to treat them physically and then remind yourself that it will pass, rather than getting upset about feeling this way. Focussing on how frustrated you are because you feel this way will only make the experience worse.
This is where Pilates and yoga can really help. They loosen everything up, thus having both a physical and emotional positive impact on your body and mind. Eating iron rich foods can also help if you have a heavy period. The important thing is to take action and attack the negative moods before they impact your life.
Be proactive during these two weeks a month and don't allow a physical response to set you back every month.
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Are you just going through the motions?
I was thinking today about life, my goals & the reasons why I decided to get into the profession of helping others. From as young as 11 yrs of age I can recall thinking 'I want to be in a job that helps ple or animals'. For a while I thought that my love of animals would lead me to veterinary work - then I realised I wouldn't have the heart to put animals down when their 'time' came. Then I thought I wanted to be a teacher working with children or a child therapist because I love kids so much. However, I soon realised I was too sensitive to cope with the emotional trauma of childhood and would end up wanting to take every suffering child home!!!
Finally, I found my niche working with adults who want to improve their lives. Now, with this in mind, I am constantly brainstorming new ways my clients and members achieve their dreams. These ideas come fast and furiously, so I'm often running from project to project without stopping to think about what I'm doing and REALLY enjoying the process. The shame of working like this is that I can neglect to stop and enjoy my passion. I end up running on a treadmill without giving myself time to relish in the joy of my ideas and in the creative process. I'm reminded of my passion every time I finish sessions with a clients and I see the change in their level of hope, happiness and self confidence. That leaves me on a high too. However, it's important to remember this joy during all my daily tasks.
This issue of reminding myself to stop and enjoy the moments in life - relates to all areas of my life. I'm just about finished my next book to help mums with the emotional side of motherhood. The major topic I was writing about last night was all the 'hats' we have to wear as mothers. As a result, it's no wonder we are constantly thinking about the next thing we have to do, instead of simply enjoying the present task and then gradually moving on to the next one. Without changing our mindset to enjoy these moments, life can pass by very quickly.
So, I'm now reminding myself during every day tasks as well to enjoy the process. I put my daughter to bed tonight and simply enjoyed the moment, rather than daydreaming half way through the (often long) bed routine process, to list in my mind all the tasks I had to do before going to bed myself. Being a Mum is one of my greatest joys in life, so I also need to remind myself to enjoy the moments before she grows up and doesn't need or want me to tuck her into bed any more. It's time to stop going through the motions & start enjoying & relishing all the precious moments & motions of life.
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Valuing your Friendships
Friends come from many different mediums: online, face to face & over the phone friends. Often we assume all our friends should be as close as best friends. We place expectations on our friendship and feel disappointed when friends let us down. However, it's important to be realistic with your expectations. For instance, is it appropriate to expect the same from an acquaintance you chat to online as it from a friend you see socially on the weekends?
Much of our disappointment with friends stems from what we expect from them and from our own values. Often we think "I'd never treat a friend like that", but should all your friends have exactly the same values as you? Is it possible that everyone has a million and 1 things going on in their lives, so you will find times when they have loads of time for you & times when they are simply caught up in their own lives.
The message here is as long as you are being treated with respect, you can relax and allow your friends to be who they are, rather than be a clone of you. Enjoy friendships for what they are and try not to place demands, ultimatums or infect them with unnecessary neediness.
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
The power of self-belief
When you stop and think about life, why should it be more plausible for one person to achieve a desire than it is for someone else. Often we see the end result of a person's success, without fully appreciating or understanding the work that it has taken to reach this success. We assume it was easy for them and thus much too hard for us to achieve. This is why autobiographies are so important to read. They often give us an insight into the planning and dedication that has led to success. Actors are a great example of this. Naomi Watts was struggling for years, working in cafe's etc. Despite having incredible contacts in the industry, it took dedication and self belief to trust that eventually she would get her lucky break. If she had thrown in the towel a few years earlier, who knows where she would have ended up in her career. There are countless stories like this.
The keys to achieving your desires are:
- Believing 100% that you have the ability and right to achieve anything you put your mind to
- Setting out a plan to make it happen
- Working through your plan - unwaveringly
- Reassessing your plan and tweaking it along the way to find what's working and what's not
- Taking opportunities as they arise
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Finding joy in the fortune of others
Often we find it difficult to be happy for ple who have things we really want ($, love, family, success) because it reminds us of what we want but don't have. However, what others have has no impact on your ability to have it too. By focussing on being happy for others and then trusting that you can have it too, you relax and enjoy their success.
You may want children and feel upset every time you see a pregnant woman because it reminds you of what you're missing. However, if you trust the law of attraction (Abrahram - Jerry & Ester Hicks), you'll see if you can find happiness in the joy each pregnant woman feels, you bring yourself closer to the vibration of being pregnant yourself. One thing you know for sure, focussing on jealousy and anger does not bring you closer to having the things you really desire. Find more inspiration at www.happylife.net.au
You may want children and feel upset every time you see a pregnant woman because it reminds you of what you're missing. However, if you trust the law of attraction (Abrahram - Jerry & Ester Hicks), you'll see if you can find happiness in the joy each pregnant woman feels, you bring yourself closer to the vibration of being pregnant yourself. One thing you know for sure, focussing on jealousy and anger does not bring you closer to having the things you really desire. Find more inspiration at www.happylife.net.au
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Focus on your strengths
Focus on your strengths. When you find your passion, make it your mission to become the expert in this passion. When you become an expert, your skills are more valuable and others will seek your expertise. Think about the areas in which you excel and from which you find enjoyment and fulfillment.This is where you need to concentrate. For instance, say "yes" to taking on more of these tasks at work and delegate or spend less time on the areas that you struggle in. Why try to be an expert at something you don't enjoy and are not really that good at? It only detracts you from the areas your ARE good at. Take the pressure off yourself to have to try to be the best at EVERYTHING. Outsource where possible (and viable) too, in order to allow your mind to be clear and to focus on what you do well. The specialist is paid more, is respected more for that skill and is sought after for that skill too. It doesn't matter what it is, people will search for and pay for the best in a chosen field. Find more inspiration at http://www.happylife.net.au/
Monday, May 28, 2012
The power of visualisation
When you visualize your goals and desires on a daily basis, there comes a point when you notice a shift in the visualisation. At that point it moves from seeing your goal in front of you, to experiencing your goal as though you are living it. I had this experience recently when I was doing my regular visualising. All of a sudden the vision moved from somewhere in front of me to engulfing me. I felt like I was there, actually undertaking all the things I was visualising. This is when the feeling changed from being something in the future to feeling as though I was experiencing it now. I could see then what all the gurus of the law of attraction are talking about. It takes time and persistence to do these visualisations every single day, but these shifts give you a taste of the power of the mind to change your life and create the future you desire. Find more inspiration at http://www.happylife.net.au/
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Accept your life and move on
We compare ourselves to others all the time. Sometimes you might find yourself thinking its not fair that things seem so easy for others and start to get angry/frustrated/down because certain things seem harder for you than they appear for others. Besides appreciating that everyone had their issues, it's important to reach a state of acceptance of the life you have been given. Then to pick yourself up and declare that you have a choice to change things. It might be tougher in that one area you want to change, but you can do it and it's so... Worth the effort. www.happylife.net.au
Sunday, February 19, 2012
What's your roadblock?
If you're not seeing yourself getting closer to what you desire, it's likely you don't really have faith in yourself that you can achieve it or sustain it. Often when you have wanted something for a long time - the state of uncertainty and desire is what you know and feel comfortable with.
In order to avoid self sabotage it's important to live in the moment and ignore the outcome because the outcome is the unknown. And the unknown will ALWAYS be scarier than the present state - even if you're unhappy with where you are now.
Trust that you're taking the right steps. Believe you can do it. There is no blueprint that states one person will succeed over another. If there was, every wealthy child with a great family would be set for life.
YOU are the creator of your destiny.
http://www.happylife.net.au/
In order to avoid self sabotage it's important to live in the moment and ignore the outcome because the outcome is the unknown. And the unknown will ALWAYS be scarier than the present state - even if you're unhappy with where you are now.
Trust that you're taking the right steps. Believe you can do it. There is no blueprint that states one person will succeed over another. If there was, every wealthy child with a great family would be set for life.
YOU are the creator of your destiny.
http://www.happylife.net.au/
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