Happy relationships

One of the key 'errors' we make when we are settled in a relationship is that we think we don't have to try any more to sustain it. We assume that the hard part is over - 'hooking up' with a desired partner - but this is only the first step. Once in a relationship it's important to follow some key rules:

• Be your BEST self - don't try to be someone that you are not just to impress your partner, because you can't sustain this forever
• Practice open communication - bottling things up will only lead to resentment
• Make an effort - looking your best for work and then changing into 'daggy' clothes the minute you get home sends the message that your partner isn't worth the effort
• Find out when your partner is most open to talk about stressful issues like money, family, health and friendship concerns and schedule these times into your diaries
• Don't use your partner as a punching bag - people often assume it's OK to dump all their baggage onto their partners, yet make an effort to put on a brace face around other people they care less about in order to keep the impression of being a positive person. Your partner needs to see this positive person too
• Kiss your partner every day like you mean it - don't just go through the motions
• Remind yourself regularly of why you know your partner loves you and vice versa

If you keep to these tips you'll be amazed at how much better your relationship can be.

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